I'm venting a frustration today, so bear with me and if you like, agree with me and make me feel better about it. :)
I haven't gained much weight with this pregnancy so far; I'm almost 30 weeks along and am apparently measuring a little small but my doctor is keeping the due date the same because he thinks the baby is just little. Little but healthy, that is! Furthermore, since I'm tall and long-waisted, I carry babies vertically so they don't stick out very much.
The comments I've received thus far include
(the first one was from today, prompting this blog):
"There's no way you're in your third trimester! Are you eating anything?"
"You don't really look pregnant, just like you ate a lot for lunch."
"Are you sure that baby is growing properly?"
"I hope you're at least taking vitamins so the baby will be healthy!"
"I hate people like you. Just eat some cookies or something."
-and finally, my personal favorite...
"You look like you just have a really good beer belly."
Are you kidding me? If it's not politically correct to tell someone they need to lose a few pounds, why is it okay to tell them they need to gain a few? And for crying out loud, is it ever okay to say someone's UNBORN CHILD is NOT HEALTHY? I didn't think so. And just for clarification, I'm not like a skinny girl who gets skinny comments on a regular basis. And I do eat cookies. I'm just a mom who happens to hide babies pretty well because of the biomechanical makeup of my uterus for crying out loud, so I wish everyone would just keep their mouths shut!
Thanks for listening. I feel better.
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the nerve...i don't get it either. why do people feel like a pregnant belly is free-reign to comment on things they would NEVER in a million years say to someone who wasn't pregnant? those are ALL (i repeat, ALL) ridiculous things to say. unfortunately, i'm no good at thinking of quick and witty things to say back to people right after they insult me...or else i'd help you in that endeavor. you need a good line that'll just shut 'em up when they say these things. i'm sure the majority of them would never dream of trying to hurt your feelings...but they just don't get it. so sorry! you look GREAT!
I agree with Sarah - Those comments are ridiculous and I'm so sorry you are having to endure them. I know it's frustrating, but just try to ignore them. You know you are doing everything in your power to make sure that baby girl is healthy, so that's all that matters.
I hear ya. Though not an anorexic waif, I also had a small pregnant belly. At 37 weeks I had a 5lb 11oz, tiny, but very healthy, baby girl. I CONSTANTLY had people comment on how small I was, how I couldn't be that far along, how my baby must not be growing properly. After so many comments, it did make my paranoid... what if there WAS something wrong and my baby was not growing properly? I finally asked my wonderful OB who said women all carry differently, I was perfectly fine!
With my first people would see me and say, "Oh he must be so little." Well he wasn't. He weighed 8 lbs 10oz and was 5 days early. Now with my 2nd I was so big people asked me constantly if I was having twins! I don't know if I prefer looking small or huge??????? Gotta love unsolicated opinions from strangers!
Oh, Jack, I'm sorry! That stinks. I kind of had the opposite problem with everyone saying I was ready to give birth any day when I was six months along. Or people looking at me and saying, "I hope I never get that big!" All that to say, I'm sorry that people are idiots. And I think you're the hottest pregnant momma ever!
I'm not sure what's worse - when I was 9 months along and getting my weekly weigh in the nurse wrote down what my weight was and then told me it's a good thing I'm so tall because tall people carry their weight well...
nice - pass the cookies please:)
Sorry people are RUDE! I have been able to brush most of the comments off pretty well. But, with only two weeks to go I am getting quite sick of the "you look really uncomfortable" and "you really are MOSTLY belly - haven't gained TOO much weight everywhere else."
What kills me is that most of these rude comments come from people who are MOMS!!!! Hello - you've been here - shut it, please!
I will never understand why people think its any of their business in the first place to make comments. Its so rude. Besides who wants to be HUGE pregnant and miserable in the first place...I hope I'm a tiny preggers if and when that happens...if that makes sense.
Its almost as bad as people taunting you about getting pregnant in the first place.
Sarah P said it perfectly.
I thought you look great!
For all of the idiots out there who don't filter what they say - I have no words..just stupid, stupid people! I'm fed up with them too!
I echo the fact that you DO look fabulous!
I used to lose when when pregnant. Especially with my first, I was tiny -- I carried toward my back, and didn't really start showing until about 6 months (I really blew up after that, though, although at 9 months I looked like I had a large basketball under my shirt). I didn't get such rude comments, though. You should say something like, "What makes you think I want to hear that?"
UNacceptable!!! there's really nothing more to say... well, except that those people are morons. You're BEAUTIFUL!
Um, who are these people? Right before I had Brett a man AT CHURCH made a big scene of clearing people out of the way so I could "squeeze through." He thought it was hilarious, I thought he was an idiot. Seriously, never comment on a pregnant lady's size.
And for the record, YOU LOOK ADORABLE!
Oh quit whining and go eat some cookies. Or some cone'bread.
Just kidding. Most women gain TOO much weight, and I keep hearing that doctors are now encouraging women to gain less during pregnancy (like, 20 lbs as opposed to the regular 30). So just because lots of other women use pregnancy as an excuse to get enormous, you are doing it right. Just point them to Noah and say that you didn't show much with him either, but that he's clearly perfectly healthy. Then tell them to bite your skinny ass.
No way!! Someone suggested your baby wasn't growing properly or was unhealthy?!? That's awful!
When it comes to pregnant women, idiots just think it's fair game.
Sorry about the comments. That's horrible!
PS: I miss you!!!
And believe me it doesn't get any better if you adopt. Questions like "how much did he/she COST" or "I could never GIVE AWAY MY baby". I often think, I don't think I might be that self-less either but am sure thankful for the strength of our birthmoms!
WOW, the questions people ask! I bet we could all write a book.
Enjoy your pregnancy, before you know it you will have your new bundle of joy!
Blessings
Sue
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